I will always feel alone. Things will never change. God has abandoned me. God doesn’t love me. No one loves me.
Have you ever had any of those thoughts cross your mind? Maybe they have not only crossed your mind but you believe them to be true because your reality seems to affirm those thoughts.
We have entered into a season that should be marked with joy and gladness, yet for many it feels like pouring salt into the open wound of loneliness. The holidays serve as a reminder of loss, broken promises, or abandonment that you want to run and hide from. It often appears easier to escape than to allow yourself to feel hurt and sadness and so you mask or numb the pain. That may get you through the holiday season but the pain and heartache will remain long after.
Loneliness is common to all and sometimes inescapable. You may fall victim to loneliness through no fault of your own and your circumstances have thrust you into it. Loneliness also comes through sin which bring separation from God and others. As a follower of Christ, you may experience loneliness for being an obedient disciple and forsaking the ways of the world.
I love the book of Psalms in the Bible because it is filled with honest, raw emotion and it teaches us how we are to handle loneliness and heartache.
How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?
How long must I wrestle with my thoughts
and day after day have sorrow in my heart?
How long will my enemy triumph over me?
Look on me and answer, Lord my God.
Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death,
and my enemy will say, “I have overcome him,”
and my foes will rejoice when I fall.
But I trust in your unfailing love;
my heart rejoices in your salvation.
I will sing the Lord’s praise,
for he has been good to me.
From Psalm 13 we see the psalmist openly convey his heart to the Lord and even question God. He’s completely honest about his feelings and doubts. After pouring out his true thoughts to the Lord he begins to pray that God would answer him and rescue him. The psalmist then moves to expressing his faith in the Lord and praising Him for the salvation of his soul and for His goodness.
When loneliness occurs, rather than seeking to escape reality or fill the void we should seek aloneness in the presence of the Lord. Cry out to Him just as the psalmist did. Ask God to search your heart and reveal sin in your life. Even though joy feels absent, thank God for who He is.
God, who is well acquainted with grief, sees and knows your heartache. He longs to fill the void in your heart. He has promised He will never leave us, He goes before us, and He will not fail us. He is the one who will meet all of our needs according to His glorious riches and satisfy us with good things.
Joy has come and is available to all who would receive Him.